How
would you react in this case: Your spouse cheats on you and gets caught. They
say they won’t do it again and ask for your forgiveness. You love them so you
accept their apology and forgive them; after some work things are back to
normal. Sometime later you catch them again. You still love them, but do you
forgive them again? Can you move on? Furthermore, you find out the cheating
never really stopped. We’re told to forgive each other but it’s much easier
said than done.
However,
my topic today is not about us forgiving each other (man) but certain
circumstances we go to God for forgiveness.
The
scenario above is the predicament we put God in. We sin, He catches us every time, we ask for His forgiveness
and more than likely do it again. Most times I’m sure we have the best
intentions of doing right, and for while we do straighten up and act right. But
the flesh is weak and many times temptation and opportunity get the best of us.
Then unintentionally we find ourselves back in old habits and soon we’re
repenting and asking for forgiveness again. God loves us unconditionally and the
thing is He forgives us to please Himself, not because we deserve it (Isaiah
43:25). Had it been left to us we’d all be on the short bus to hell. We all
fall short, but at least we’re trying.
By
definition, real repentance means to turn from sin
and dedicate oneself to the amendment of one's life. So it’s possible to be
sorry and even ask for forgiveness without truly repenting. But isn’t it the
act of true repentance part of what secures our spot in heaven?
This
is the part that’s going to step on some toes. What about the times we ask for
forgiveness and intentionally find ourselves back in habitual sin? The obvious
example is premarital sex. We have sex,
then go to church and ask for forgiveness for our sins and go back at it like
nothing happened. How can you go to God and ask for forgiveness knowing that
you have every intention of doing it again? Are we really repenting if we
intend to do it again? We like to say stuff like “God know my heart” and He
does, but he also knows our sins and our intentions. It doesn’t seem like we
really repent. We go through the motions so we can feel better about what we’re
doing but He knows if we’re really sincere or just fooling ourselves. We’re
definitely not fooling Him.
I don’t have all the answers and have battled
and been conflicted with this myself. But I can definitely pose the questions.
I participated in a Bible-in-a-year reading plan at 2 separate times in my life. Reading about the repetitive disobedience of Israel really annoyed me, but then I remembered that our lives (myself included) mirror theirs. We do what we shouldn't and don't do what we should. Despite our many faults and downfalls, He is faithful and forgiving offering chance after chance to get it right.
ReplyDeleteI started having sex at the age of 17. It wasn't until a few years ago that I felt convicted to stop altogether. I knew that fornication was a sin but didn't think waiting until marriage was reasonable. I matured in my faith, and the increased Word of God led to conviction. I looked at God like, "really dude? I have to stop now?"
I prayed and fasted and prayed some more. I needed help to not only do right but to truly have the desire to do right. It's a lot easier to turn down an offering if you're not interested. My mindset changed so that the life of righteous God was convicting me to aspire to was now achievable. Don't get me wrong, the temptation is still there, but my desire to please God and do His will finally outweighed mine.
I'm still young (under 30) and I don't fault my friends or anyone else who hasn't made the decision to abstain from premarital sex because it took me almost 10 years to get to this point. Each believer's walk with Christ is unique.