B.
… In Relationships
Unfortunately sometimes, we don’t get to decide who our
family is. We were born into them, and … unless you’re a Huxable, all the
family drama that comes with it. We didn’t get a choice in matter. Yet, we do
get to decide how we interact with
them. And for the friends and lovers… you really do get to decide who these
people are. We have got to realize that allot of these relationships are totally
within your control!
So if the relationship sucks, then you have already realized
that a change is needed. Stop dealing with folks on their terms. Cut them off.
Leave. Stop allowing them to kill your mood and suck the life out of you. Stop
saying what you should do about the situation
and DO IT. Every day you put it off is another day you could have closer to
having peace of mind.
Getting to that future peace means we must stop living in
the past. Just because things used to be
good doesn’t mean that they ever will be again. Yeah, they didn’t used to treat you like that…
but guess what. They do now. Whatever it was they are doing…. They are doing to
you because you allow it. Stop taking
that shit. Give them a time or two to straighten up. (I said 1 or 2…not 87). You
deserve better. Got to stop letting family, friends and lovers kill your vibe.
You must decide that that you can make the change. Yeah, it
may mean pissing off some family and losing some friends – but your sanity is
worth it. It’s a good chance that while you’re bothered over a situation, they aren’t
even thinking about you or what they did. I don’t want to be a grumpy old man
looking back on my life, frustrated and pissed about all the people who did me
wrong. Do something now while you can. Time waits for no man.
Realize that you are
worth it. You deserve better. Make better choices – in how and who we
interact with. Change your habits and focus on what’s really important to you.
I’m not saying this is going to be easy. In fact, it’s probably going to suck
at first. It will be cold. It will be hard. But guess what … It will be worth
it.
For the ones talking about the lovers – As yourself “Is this
the relationship I want?” You’re in a comfortable
relationship but it’s not what you want? GET OUT. There is something better
out there for you. You’ll begin to resent them…for being them. But you’re the
one that continues to stay – you can’t play the victim. I can understand that you
don’t want to start over but every day you stay is a day lost for something
better.
The decisions we make each day will be the difference in a
decent life and the life we want. They alter the course of our lives and good different
choices will make us uncomfortable in the
short run... but better overall. Kids, marriage, jobs, location, your
standards, traveling, education – these are all decisions within our control. I’m
not saying they will be easy decisions… I’m just saying they are ones we can
make.
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